Beautiful Or Cynical?

This video of one of the most elaborate marriage proposals that I’ve ever seen showed up in my Facebook newsfeed a while ago. While I doubt, given its source and the seriously high production value, that it’s real, it struck me somewhat oddly.

Because of the way I think I’m forced to wonder, if this was a real proposal, is it perhaps the most beautiful and romantic proposal in recent public memory or an equally egregious case of one person cynically manipulating another for his own ends?

Since I know that my mind doesn’t work like most people’s, why don’t you readers tell me what you think of this proposal?

Was his proposal beautiful and romantic or cynically manipulative

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For the record – in case you couldn’t guess – I found it to be a cynically manipulative ploy because it forced the women to either accept the proposal or both a hugely public scene and basically tell her friends and family that she didn’t respect their opinions.

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The Problem With Ebonics

Ebonics aka African American Vernacular English (AAVE) is a distinctive lect of the English language spoken by many Blacks within America’s borders. It is the descendent of West African Pidgin English and Southern American English. Like all lects it is a regular, systematic language variety that contrasts with other dialects in terms of its grammar, pronunciation, and vocabulary. Therein lies the problem with Ebonics.

Language shapes thought because it shapes perception by defining the meanings of words, phrases and concepts. Simply put, a Black does not necessarily “hear” what a White is saying because the same word-sounds in Standard American English and Ebonics may have drastically different respective meanings.

A simple example is how a Black hears any statement by Whites about Black crime, whether it is Black-on-Black or Black-on-White. In many, though not all, cases members of the “Black Community” – native speakers of Ebonics – will not “hear” what the speaker is in their own minds saying. They derive a totally different meaning from it:

Around Blacks Never Relax
Around Blacks Never Relax

And that is the problem with Ebonics in a nutshell. It prevents us from having frank and open discussions about a plethora of serious topics and concerns. Not truly having a language in common means that Whites and the “Black Community” also do not have a basic cognitive framework in common within which to have such discussions.

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Feminist Pathology

CryingIt’s impossible for anyone of a rational bent to fail to realize that the Feminists of today exhibit a very strong and destructive pathology and that the pathology they exhibit is the pathology of victimhood.

Feminists have to be victims, otherwise they have no purpose. It doesn’t matter what their choices are or have been; if they don’t get the results that they want, it’s because of “The Patriarchy.”

An example of this is inadvertently provided by Sheilah O’Donnel:

O’Donnel, featured in the “60 Minutes” story pushing a stroller, was, in some ways, an unlikely voice of the opt-out revolution. She had been proudly working since she was 15, when she had a job as a coat-check girl. By 17, she was buying clothes and books and food — and sometimes even paying her family’s electric bill — through jobs that included waitressing and pedaling tourists around downtown Columbus, Ohio, on a pedi-taxi.

She worked her way through Ohio State and, eager to pay off her college loans, got a job selling copiers. She eventually landed in a competitive training program at Oracle, the technology company, where she rose quickly through the ranks, ending up in the top 5 percent of the sales force. She also met the man who would become her husband, Mark Eisel — an up-and-comer in management. They worked hard and became well off. At her peak, O’Donnel was earning $500,000 a year.

But after her first two children were born, O’Donnel’s travel for work became more difficult. She gave up a quarter of her earnings in exchange for working three days a week, but felt marginalized, her best accounts given to others, meetings often scheduled on her days out of the office. “I felt like a second-class citizen,” she said.

O’Donnel’s angst-filled lament on how she was treated by her employer, Oracle perfectly sums the victimhood displayed by the modern crop of Feminists that plague society. Specifically, it addresses the truth of their current, delusional rants about the “Wage Gap.”

O’Donnel, like a majority of women, chose to move her job to a secondary position in favor of raising her children. Yet, as a victim of Feminism, her pathology forced her to blame her employer for making the needed alternations in their practices to avoid being financially harmed by her decision because, according to the pathology of victimology that the Feminists promulgate, it’s their fault for not ignoring the consequences to them of her choices and guaranteeing her the same results as before. Even her use of “second-class citizen” fits the pathology, as it summons up the hoary, old canard of civil rights violations.

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